Is There Science Behind Missing Someone?
Isolation has actually taken the feeling of “missing someone” to an entirely new level. If you are in quarantine and away from your loved one, you will correlate to what it means to be missing someone.
“I just don’t feel myself without you”, a very simple statement says it all…
To miss someone means you love him/her and feel incomplete without his/her presence in your life. Missing that person actually is a missing part in the jigsaw puzzle of life that makes you whole and complete.
I’m a big fan of science, so thought; why not find the science behind missing someone. Surely there must be some chemical reaction happening in the brain that makes you crave for that person the way you crave for food.
However, before we jump into the science of missing a romantic partner, it’s important to understand how romantic attachment works.
According to Clarrisa Silva – A behavioral scientist, “There are a few neurochemical processes that are occurring for both men and women when they are in love, your body is releasing adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin, in addition to testosterone and estrogen. Dopamine is what creates chivalrous behavior in men and intense attachment for women.” This observation makes a lot of sense since men and women behave differently in a romantic relationship.
Of all the emotions involved in a relationship, I find the emotion of “missing someone” to be strongest. When you are away from your partner, all your body processes seem to shut down and it feels as if all the body cells work towards “missing” your partner. It’s probably the only emotion in which both heart and brain work together, both becoming weak, both leading to emotional breakdown.
I then started to think about different relationships that I have had in past and in which ones the feeling of missing someone has been strongest. In some, missing didn’t come at all and in some missing was so strong that it clouded every other emotion. Deeper thinking made me realize that it all boiled down to the length of a relation.
Consider the scenario when you partner is away on a long business trip. If you are in a relation since a long time, you might not feel insecure and emotionally stressed. However, if the relation is new, the distance might make you stressed and you would want to seek continuous validation from your partner that everything is all right. Panic starts to seep in a new relation when your partner is away, making you message a lot and even a small delay in reply will make you lose your cool.
I know it’s not a good feeling of being away from your partner, but fretting over it doesn’t help either. Key is to keep your body and mind busy in a creative way that requires your brain to be focused on something else apart from worrying over whether your partner is cheating on you or not.
It’s totally normal to miss your partner and those who say that their relationship is so strong that they don’t worry about the distance, they are probably lying or fooling themselves because now we know there is science behind missing. So, if you are missing your partner when he/she is away, scientifically it means that you are in a strong relationship…this thought will make you happy about missing someone instead of being sad.