Many people have talked about being 30, feeling old and how miserable that feeling is. After all, you would be three decades old, that’s sounds like a lot.

So, yes it can be a dreadful thought of entering into your midlife zone, even though I haven’t been there yet, I can feel what people turning into 30 might feel. But be cheerful, not everyone is as fortunate enough to make it so far, so you have some thinking to do, maybe God wanted more out of you and thus, you are still breathing. 

Turning 30 is not so bad, but here comes the bad part – Turning 30 and being Single. Now wait for it, here comes the worst part – Turning 30, being Single and a Woman. Now that’s a bummer, coz once you are 30 and you are a female, you might not feel that old but people around you, your friends, family, and the so-called society will diligently take the responsibility of making you realize everyday that you are now too old and are not eligible to have a decent boyfriend leave aside marriage.

Like the good old saying goes, “All good men are either taken or gay!”, so good luck trying to find a husband now that you have turned into a 30 year old maid.

“Seriously, what do these people think?” – A friend of mine shared her agony with me yesterday over a cup of coffee. “Am I single by choice or what, of course I want to settle down with someone I can share the rest of my life with, but finding that someone has been impossible so far”.

This got me thinking. Why is it so difficult to find someone whom we can love forever? Is it true that good men no longer exist for 30 year old females? It would have been easy to find someone when you are 20 year old, when all you care about is the packaging and anyone with a charming face and good physique would be good enough to take your heart away. But when you grow older, you mature and good looks don’t matter. You need someone who can make you laugh, who can make you feel special, who can understand you even when you throw tantrums, who is compassionate and who is in my opinion a complete man and not a school kid.

It’s not that my friend has been too picky or has been rejecting guys left and right, it’s just that she has not yet found THE ONE. When I asked her how you feel about your situation, she just shrugged casually and said, “I’m successful right now and have a bright career, although it would be nice to have someone to cuddle in the night but I’m still contended and happy with what I have achieved in these 30 years”. I was impressed and happy for how confident she was about her life which is something that most of us fail to do. We become so obsessed with what society thinks about us that we forget what is it that we really want.

When you are 30, you have probably seen it all and for you personally settling down would have a lot many criteria than just getting married and having kids. I just said one thing to my friend, get married only if you want to and don’t get married because the culture or the society wants you to. Just be patient and have faith and everything should work out just fine.

Cheers to Being 30!


4 thoughts on “Turning 30, Single and A ………. Woman!

  1. That’s exactly how I feel. I’m 29 and I have a boyfriend but, he isn’t “The One” So I’am at this dillema, where I don’t know if I stay or go, then I’m single and 30 and starting all over in a new town.

    1. I know what you are feeling. As time flies by and you grow older, you become more and more selective and you are always unsure about “The One”. I would suggest to hold on to evaluate your current boyfriend and just see the pros and cons. If you are single and 30, all you need is some confidence and belief on yourself. One doesn’t need a boyfriend to feel good….

  2. I’m 29 and my bf and I started talking about marriage.
    I thought he was the one. Until I hear “his sisters” will be our financial responsibility.
    I love him because he is a family man and I chose him.
    That also became the reason why I left him.
    Now I am lost. Turning 30 when new year strikes and starting at step 1.
    What I valued in a man is now what I fear in a man.

    1. I can understand what you are going through. Seeing someone as your soulmate for so long and then leaving, it is not easy. But that is how life and love is. Don’t be lost and don’t lose hope. Life cannot stop after one man. There would be someone who is deserving your love and will make you happy forever. Just believe in yourself.

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