Why We Cannot Stop Getting Bothered about What Others Say?
So I’m pretty active on social media especially Twitter. I love how you can just speak your heart out there on every random issue. It’s my go to channel for real news these days since government has bought the media.
So on Twitter you get connected with lots of other people who you don’t even know in real life who end up trolling me a lot because I write about politics and real issues which they have turned a blind eye for. Even though I don’t know any of these trolls, I develop a strong sense of urge of justifying my stand and responding to these virtual people who are hiding behind their screens.
Why do I feel the need to do this, why do I care what these people are saying about me? Blame it on our human genes, we cannot tolerate anyone saying anything against us even if we don’t even know them. I feel the root cause of all this is our people-pleasing nature. We live our lives pleasing people, putting others first, which ends up leaving us open to be taken advantage of while we chase praise.
Our people-pleasing nature makes us always wear a mask in public. I should not cry openly because people will think I’m weak, I should not shout in public because people will think I’m ill-mannered, hell I cannot even dance in public because people will think I’m weird. So much time we spend in trying to figure it out what others think about us that we end up becoming a mess of ourselves.
No matter how hard you try to be everyone’s favourite, people will find ways to blame you one way or the other. So what do you do in that case – Just stop giving a fuck about what others think or say. It’s that simple, life is simple and living life is even simpler but we just don’t know how to live it.
If you don’t like what someone is saying about you, don’t listen. If you don’t like how someone is behaving with you, don’t be with that person. There is no harm in letting people hate you as long as you are able to love yourself. The sad truth of life is that we will all die alone, there wont be anyone dying with you. This fact alone should make you realize that when end is to be faced alone then why bother with togetherness in life.
Just walk on your own path without giving a shit about what others think, life is too short and journey is too long, if you wait to please and care about everyone on your way then you will never be able to reach your destination.
Don’t less the noise created by others drown your own voice, the best gift you can give to yourself is the ability to think just about yourself – Aloud.