Archive for September, 2015

28
Sep

Did I do the right thing?

Maybe Not….Maybe Yes, but I will probably never know. This is one question that keeps bothering me almost everyday with one or the other decision that I take.

Should I have worn the red dress instead? Is the make-up too much? Should I still be friends with him? The list just goes on and on.

We are all always stuck in the dilemma of whether we did the right thing or not. We can just never be too confident about the choices we make in our life and hence these pain-enduring confusions.

My husband recently bought a new car, a Toyota model, however, he also had his eyes on a Skoda. After thinking for weeks, he finally bought the Toyota and yet every time he sees a Skoda on road, he will look at me and say, “Do you think we should have bought the Skoda instead?

It’s not just the materialistic things in our lives, we are faced with a similar question in relationships too. Have you gotten married and then 5 years down the line find yourself wondering if this was the right choice? Maybe you could have waited some more time and someone better would have come along.

But the answer is simple, “you will never know”. It doesn’t matter whether he/she is the right person for you, because you are married and whoever it was after him/her doesn’t exist anymore.

The truth is that we all make the right decision every time, hard to believe, right? But it’s true, all our decisions are right because they felt right at that time when we took them. It doesn’t matter if it looks wrong now in present because you did what you wanted to do back then.

No matter how many hours, days, weeks, you spent in thinking what to do, but in the end you just do what you probably wanted to do deep in your heart since the beginning. I feel that one must trust their innate sense of timing.

Time never waits for anyone and whatever decisions we take are relative to time. It’s best to accept that we did something in the moment and there is no going back in time to change things or going in future to know whether it’s good or bad. How about just being confident about what we do and even if things didn’t turn out the way we expected, get up, brush the dust away and move on to try new things.

Never stop trusting yourself, because the day you stop is the day your worries begin.

 

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08
Sep

New Forum For Confused Souls

Since I started writing this blog in 2011, I have received hundreds of messages from people who are confused and lost just as I used to be before I started penning down my thoughts here.

Be it a romantic relationship, office issues or marital differences, confusions have haunted us at some or the other point in life. I feel a lot of us have similar issues and we jointly can help each other to come out of this phase.

Keeping this thought, I have started a forum on the blog for us like minded people to come and share our problems in an open forum, you can keep your identity anonymous or go public, choice is yours. I feel that with this forum, people looking for solutions in their confused life would be able to do so easily.

Kindly register to participate here: http://www.confusedforever.com/register.

Confusions are just a phase of life and with the right type of support I’m sure we all can emerge as more decisive people. Let’s make our own support group to share our confused souls virtually.