“I’m in love with someone who is just perfect and I plan to live the rest of my life with him”, declared my friend Susan over a cup of coffee yesterday. She continued, “He is an amazing partner and a wonderful friend and really the one with whom I dream of having a family with”. My natural response was, “so when do we hear the wedding bells?” “When did I say I want to get married”, Susan said casually.  I didn’t respond to her statement for a moment and started thinking, why would two people who are deeply in love Continue to read the rest of the article…

Your destiny is shaped according to the combination of conditions pre-determined at birth and other factors that you are able to change through your own efforts. ~ From: “The Essence of Buddha”.  People say that we are born with our own destiny and even before being born our fate is sealed. Be it Fate or Destiny both define what we will end up getting in our life. But is Fate and Destiny same? We read religious books, we pray to God and we believe that he writes in his books what happens to us and we accept it no matter Continue to read the rest of the article…

We all have to do what we have to do! We are born with responsibilities and we simply need to fulfill them no matter what, there is no running away. We crib, we hurt, we cry with what life brings for us, but we do those things anyways. A friend of mine doesn’t like his job and dreads going every morning, but he has to go in order to feed his family. My colleague was recently offered a lucrative job in a far off city but was thinking about whether success was worth leaving his old parents alone. Sacrifices! We Continue to read the rest of the article…

If you have watched the American Sitcom, “Big Bang Theory”, then you probably can imagine how tough it is for smart guys to find a girl. If I were to think and look around, the general theory would be that “smart men” end up dating “dumb girls” and “smart women” usually hook up with “smart men”.  Many of you reading the article might beg to differ and think that we shouldn’t really base some discriminating theory like this as per the sex of the individual. I mean who is to say and judge the intellectuality of a person. So, how Continue to read the rest of the article…

We all make mistakes in our life and being human empowered with the most superior brain on this earth we like to keep making those mistakes again and again. It’s our thing, to make mistakes and in God’s terminology, to commit Sins.  We have been taught since childhood that we should always do the right thing, things that have been written in Bible, Quran or Geeta, depending on the religion you follow. Personally for me, I consider the morally right thing to do is to help people in any way and morally wrong is to hurt people intentionally. But when Continue to read the rest of the article…

Many people have talked about being 30, feeling old and how miserable that feeling is. After all, you would be three decades old, that’s sounds like a lot. So, yes it can be a dreadful thought of entering into your midlife zone, even though I haven’t been there yet, I can feel what people turning into 30 might feel. But be cheerful, not everyone is as fortunate enough to make it so far, so you have some thinking to do, maybe God wanted more out of you and thus, you are still breathing.  Turning 30 is not so bad, but Continue to read the rest of the article…

Last week I met a long lost friend and was surprised that she was going back and forth for almost 1 year now after her relationship ended with her boyfriend. Since they broke up, surprisingly he has been saying “I’m missing you a lot”, “I can’t forget the times we have spent together”, “I can’t believe we are not together anymore”, “I MISS YOU!”. When she told me that he has been saying such things, I was confused, if he is missing her so much, what is preventing them from being together, especially when he was the one who broke Continue to read the rest of the article…

I still have a picture of the day which seemed to me the happiest day of my life. I look at it every day to remind me of happiness and a hope that such a day will come again. A friend of mine was worried about her future, didn’t know whether she will get a job or will her marriage work. She was desperate enough to do anything to make things better. Suddenly, the ad on TV mentioned about a Tarot reader who could predict your future and give solutions to problems. She started thinking, should she give it a Continue to read the rest of the article…

Nothing in life is permanent. We are born, we grow old and we die. Each second of our life is different from the rest of the seconds. I suppose the main reason for our suffering is this impermanence. We get attached to “stuff” so much that we cannot handle once it changes. Similarly, we get attached to expectations and we feel the pain when the expectations are not met. As normal human beings we all are bonded to our expectations deeply. “I love him so much, there is no doubt our marriage won’t work!” But, we all are really bad Continue to read the rest of the article…

When Adam was created, God knew that he would be lonely and he sent Eve to love him and give him company. God created us as social animals and didn’t want it’s creatures to be lonely.  Since the time we are born, we are taught to give and receive affection. A lonely person is not accepted well in the society. Family, friends, co-workers, everyone around us give us a sense of belongingness and help us find a place in this mosaic of life. But when this association, this feeling of affection goes away, we feel sad, miserable and LONELY. Often Continue to read the rest of the article…