Archive for July, 2012


Smart Men – Dumb Women, Smart Women – Smart Men!

If you have watched the American Sitcom, “Big Bang Theory”, then you probably can imagine how tough it is for smart guys to find a girl. If I were to think and look around, the general theory would be that “smart men” end up dating “dumb girls” and “smart women” usually hook up with “smart men”. 

Many of you reading the article might beg to differ and think that we shouldn’t really base some discriminating theory like this as per the sex of the individual. I mean who is to say and judge the intellectuality of a person. So, how do we really decide whether we are intelligent or we are just too self-obsessed to think we are?

If I were to assume that there are equal men and women on earth and if both of them are supposed to date people who are within their IQ range, then there would need to be a balance between the outcomes of IQ of men and women. But unfortunately it is not so and this discrepancy has created a large pool of dumb available guys and smart available women.

We live in an economic world, a world that rewards us for our intelligence. Look around you, in companies, in homes, anywhere, and you will find more intelligent people to have an advantage over those who are not. Majority of the professions need you to be brainy in order to earn a decent living unless you are a stripper.

So, it is only fair to say that intelligent people get to take a call on their relationship as well. They can exit a dating relation or end up marrying someone who is compatible with their career growth.

This brings another angle to the entire discussion; probably dumb women have a higher incentive of trying harder to find smart men to date. They are not financially rewarded for their work in school, or they are not working long hours and do have a leisure time to hunt down smart men and benefit financially from this hookup. So, maybe it’s the dumb women trying to lure smart men into dating them and as they seem like an easy catch, smart men prefer to go ahead with it without spending a lot of time on hunting down smart women.

Although, we cannot rule out sex as an angle here, which can also be one big deciding factor on who ends up with whom. To me it seems that a relation mostly is guided by your mating preferences. Women feel inappropriate to sleep with men of less intelligence as their own and men on the other hand probably would go for just about anybody with a hot body. Honestly, have you ever seen a guy having regret of sleeping with a dumb hot girl?

My personal opinion about dating and settling down is to just have compatibility. Smartness, intelligence and looks are all deceptive terms without any definite lines, as long as both the partners are able to meet the needs of each other, it doesn’t matter who is smart and who is dumb. And don’t people say that marrying is the stupidest act you can do, so probably all of us who marry are dumb, so we are really no one to judge, right!


Does God Have a Right to Punish Me?

We all make mistakes in our life and being human empowered with the most superior brain on this earth we like to keep making those mistakes again and again. It’s our thing, to make mistakes and in God’s terminology, to commit Sins. 

We have been taught since childhood that we should always do the right thing, things that have been written in Bible, Quran or Geeta, depending on the religion you follow. Personally for me, I consider the morally right thing to do is to help people in any way and morally wrong is to hurt people intentionally. But when you do something, who decides whether it is right or wrong?

Pick up any religious book and you will find accounts of God punishing, hurting and judging people. Is it fair? Clearly if we are making sins, then God must have made us imperfect or else we would not make mistakes in the first place. So, if he himself made us imperfect then how can he punish us or blame us or judge us for our wrongs? My question is, does God really have a right to punish us? I mean, if I hurt someone, that someone has a right to hurt me back, but why God?

This got me wondering on another thought. If there is really God and there is religion, so whose God we should believe and who’s God has the most supreme authority for punishing us. For e.g. things that are forbidden in Islam are not forbidden in Christianity, does that mean that Christians can do those things and go without punishment? Are there some invisible men up in the clouds who keep a database of who follows what religion and each of them then decides punishment according to the respective rule book? Then what about people who do not follow any religion, who punishes them or they are like the President of Earth who can never be found guilty enough for punishment coz there is no rule book for them?

Did God really create us?

I do not agree that we were created supernaturally. I strongly believe we are product of some kind of evolutionary process, but that’s not the point here. My confusion is how did God set the rules? In some era, in some part of the world, God spoke to certain type of people. So, how can we be sure that those rules were interpreted correctly by the messenger and his disciples? Everyone interprets differently, so how can we be sure that what God said to those few people has been interpreted the way he intended and has not changed? The times have changed and so has the thinking of people. It’s only fair to think that the rules set by God centuries ago are no longer valid and need to be revised.

Eventually everything boils down to morality. Many people do things that we consider are terrible because for them those things are morally correct. Morals are different among cultures, religions, and human beings and I don’t think that this is a constant that God has placed in all of us. If so, then so many crimes wouldn’t be happening. If God is the one guiding our morals, then why did he create immoral people like sociopaths and psychopaths who have no mercy on people whom they kill or torture?

I fail to believe that if God created us, then he created some people as good and some people as bad and made sure that good people became a victim of bad people just to prove a point. Every man for himself and punishment or not, depends on his or her morals and should not be decided by God.