Archive for November, 2011


The Never Ending Craving


What is the Objective of Life?

If you ask this question to different people, you will get different answers. Some might say – to earn a lot of money or to get a lot of fame, or to have a happy family. The most common answer in today’s time I suppose is to earn a lot of money. So let’s evaluate that a little.

Why do people want money? People think that money will buy them lots of happiness as lots of money brings lots of material possessions. But can material possession bring happiness? To a certain extent yes, a big car, luxurious home, smart mobile phone, all this definitely gives you some pleasure. It helps you showoff among family and friends and makes you realize that you have things that probably others don’t have. In today’s world I would say money forms people’s Status Symbol.

But are we really satisfied with loads of money and materialistic things? Probably no, because man by birth is a greedy animal. Whatever we have, we want to have bigger and better. You have a small Nissan and you dream of buying a BMW, you have a classic Nokia and you want to buy an iPhone, you have a desktop and you dream of buying a laptop. Sometimes it is not bad to have desires, after all desires only motivate you to work harder in order to fulfill them. But have you ever thought that these materialistic possessions are mostly the cause of your fear and anxiety because you constantly worry what you will do if you lose any of them.

I read a story of Buddha a while ago. One day Gautam Buddha was sitting by the road with his monks when a farmer passed by, looking worried. He asked Gautam Buddha, “have you see a herd of cows pass by?”. Gautam Buddha said, “No”. “oh God! What will I do now, I have lost my cows and due to no rains even the crops have been ruined”, replied the distressed farmer and walked away in search of his cows. Gautam Buddha then turned and spoke to his monks, “Are you not fortunate that you don’t have cows”.

We all have a craving or attachment for something or the other. This craving, whether it is for materialistic things or for friends of family can become your source of sorrow instead of bringing happiness to you. Happiness is only temporary when you have those things around you. But you spend your entire life in constant fear of losing them and when it actually happens you become unhappy and sad.

The inherent nature of life is sadness. We all want to be happy, but the fact that happiness if based on possessions and attachments does not last and in effect it makes life unsatisfying and sorrowful. So I ask again, what is the true objective of life? It is to find eternal happiness that lasts forever, but life by nature is full of sorrows. It is not only limited to physical and mental suffering but also frustrations of not getting the things the way we want. As we get old, we want to be young again. If we are poor, we want to be rich. If we are separated by our friends and family, we are saddened. No matter what we have in life, we always crave for the something more. Even if we get what we wanted, we will still be unsatisfied and crave for more.

What is the root cause of this sadness? It is Greed, Anger and a Misleading mind. We are attached to things and people and when we are separated from them we have regrets. We cling to those things and think that they will last forever and we find it very tough to accept when they are gone. We get angry to things we don’t like. Anger harms the one getting angry than the one on whom anger is directed. The more the other person gets angry, we get angrier. Anger doesn’t solve any problem and ends up increasing them. Also, our minds are misleading, they do not see things as they really are. We fail to realize that nothing is forever. If we are sitting in a comfortable chair right now, it does not mean that the chair would be comfortable if we keep sitting on it for the whole day. We need to accept the concept of change.

Overcoming Greed, Anger and Misleading mind is important to achieve happiness.  Accept that life is subject to change and that no state is forever. Make your mind to see things as they are and not suffer from delusions. The key for happiness lies in only few things, Right Efforts, Right Mind, Right Concentration and Right Understanding. I hope we all can be happy one day. God bless!


The Most Fragile, Unstable and Unpredictable Thing – LIFE

We are born, we live and we die, this is life. Life is the most fragile, unstable and unpredictable thing that exists. There is only one sure thing about life, it isn’t over, till it’s over.

Our each day starts pretty much in the same way. We get up, take a shower, have breakfast and go to work. But there comes a day when you are walking on the road, sipping your coffee and talking on phone that suddenly a car comes and hits you. A sudden flash comes in front of your eyes and you bid your final goodbye to the world only to leave your loved ones behind to mourn and bear the pain of your leaving.

My day today also started pretty much the same way, but when I came to office, I heard about a close relative of a friend passing away. It all happened in an instant and there was nothing that she or anyone could have done to change the outcome. It’s saddening to hear about the pain, about how we have been achieving advancements in medical science only to be lost by the unpredictability of life.

When life is suddenly interrupted by a tragic or traumatic event, it can seem that the world has come to a screeching halt. Murders, assaults, and tragic accidents that occur without warning are particularly disturbing and difficult to manage emotionally and are a constant reminder that you will also die one day. While grief or sympathy is an expected reaction, another feeling is also tapped following a tragedy: a frightening sense of helplessness and vulnerability. Life becomes scary and unpredictable.

Last night when I was lying in bed, just about to go to sleep, I started having a sudden panic attack: “This is not going to remain like this forever, I’m going to die and I’m never going to see the people I love or experience the amazing things this world has to offer”. I felt helpless, panicked and shocked. For the moment the pain in my chest seemed controllable and I assured myself with calmness and positivity that everything will be all right. I started focusing on God and praying to keep me alive and my loved ones alive.

As I was lying there in my bed, praying to God and thinking that I’m going to die someday and the people whom I love will too, some words echoed in my ears and the voice sure seemed to come straight from the heaven (well, it can just be my imagination out of panic but the words seemed to hold such a deep meaning).

Me: This is it. It’s going to be gone soon.
God: I know.
Me: What do I do?
God: Enjoy it.

It made me realize that, whether I like it or not, this life is going to be gone at some point. It’s a thought that sometimes haunts me, sometimes makes me feel less-than-positive. I find myself wanting to shakeup my entire life and relive everything again just to feel more alive.

Whenever I’m about to go to sleep, the feeling of being mortal creeps into my mind. Maybe it’s the darkness and silence of the night or the guilt of not doing the things I should have done during the day. Whatever it is, the fact that I will die one day makes me more conscious and grateful about the fact that I’m breathing right now.

Using Death to Enjoy Life

Some people live an adventurous life, they are not afraid of death. They attempt to do scary stuff just to look into the eyes of death and challenge it. But for me, death is the end, end of an era, end of a lifetime and thus, it tells me how important it is to make the most of what I have right now. The notion of death motivates me to start living and not just breathing.

Not only for me but for everyone who are afraid of death, don’t let that fear stop you from living your today. Do not let the notion of death make you dwell on the shortness and unpredictability of life, instead use it to motivate you to live life to the fullest and embrace each day with open arms and a big smile. Don’t give up just because you are mortal, use death as an end goal to live life to the fullest.

Live Today as You Never Know What Tomorrow Holds!


Best Reason to Use Condom

I always write something serious on my blog which can at times be boring to follow especially for people who like humor with their cup of coffee, not some marriage advice.

So here is something fun yet important, one of the best condom ads ever. Let me know if you like it or not. I can sum it up in just one sentence, “Keep it with you always, you never know when you might need it”.

Enjoy and have safe sex!

“There are mistake that you can live with, and there are mistakes that can live with you”. Which would you prefer?